Food For Thought · Personal Growth

Balance, Boundaries, and Peace of Mind

A BIG part of my Power Word for 2021: Balance, is learning to walk away from energy draining experiences.

Gotta be HONEST… this is HARD WORK for me! I’m an emotional person. I feel everything deeply. Discussions about Issues and values I hold dear to my heart are hard to walk away from.

I’m increasingly finding that people (especially on social media) want to drag me into arguments rather than honest discussion of differing opinions, ideologies, and values. These so-called “accepting people” would rather finger-point and yell and scream. This is a useless undertaking. These people aren’t interested in a discussion about the complexity of an issue. They simply want to “Take a Stand” and tell me how I am wrong or even a bad person if I disagree with their cause, ideology, or opinion.

This is a complete waste of time and energy. Yet the drama is VERY addicting.

I must work hard to resist the pull of these futile endeavors.

My mantra: “I am living my life in balance and with healthy boundaries.”


Nothing in today’s world is going to be better if i sacrifice my peace of mind.

Life is hard enough without inviting someone else’s “Crazy” into my consciousness.

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Ushering in 2021

Ushering in a New Year, a New President, a New attitude.

I don’t agree with the new President or administration policies.

That said, I ALWAYS respect THE OFFICE and the PROCESS. 🤔

Let’s ALL try to remember/learn a few important LIFE FACTS:

  1. The Politicians that run your STATE and your COMMUNITY have more power over how you live and your quality of life than the President.
  2. If you are unhappy with what is going on around you, BE THE CHANGE you want to see.
  3. You can ALWAYS voice complaints to your LOCAL and STATE Politicians for CHANGE.
  4. Be part of the SOLUTION, stop worrying about WHO is responsible for the problem.
  5. We don’t have to AGREE on ANYTHING to BE KIND and HELP OTHERS.
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Think About Your Choices

Take some time to really THINK about the choices you are making.

Think them through to their ultimate conclusion.

Think about the chain reaction that is set in motion each time you chose. There are good and bad choices in a moment, but EVERY CHOICE has a chain reaction.

Stop looking for the “quick fix” and start considering true changes: changes that set you on the path you want to travel.

The choices you make, big or small, are important, not just in YOUR LIFE, in all the lives surrounding yours.

When you pause and take time to think about your choices, you realize you are far more powerful than you might have assumed in any given moment.

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Be Proud, Be Strong


I know it’s been AGES since I’ve Blogged. Apologies to the few faithful followers.

I think we can all agree 2020 has been a challenge.

A shout out to those who are taking the 2020 challenge as an opportunity to embrace their inner strength and forge ahead! For myself, I vacillate between”forge ahead!” and “hide my head in the sand!” (Or under a blanket…

However you are making it through: feeling successful, stuck, or just hanging on… props for NOT GIVING UP.



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Choosing Your Words

Is there anything to say that does not offend someone?

In today’s world of “politically correct” and “micro aggressions” is ANY SPEECH safe from ridicule?

I feel like all the joy in conversation and debate has been taken away. I am rarely at ease anymore with anyone. Always worried something I say will be taken as argumentative, offensive, or even hurtful.

I miss the days of throwing out a thought, opinion, or observation, and then having an in-depth conversation over its merits or lack there of. Is it meaningful? Does it have validity? Is there evidence for or against? What experience do you provide to support or object? Have we learned something new?

I feel stagnant in this culture of divisiveness. You can only share ideas, opinions or thoughts that agree or you are labeled intolerant!

When did the very definition of intolerance loose its meaning?

I’m trying to think back to WHEN, exactly, we crossed this line where freedom of speech is only acceptable if you agree. I really can’t put my finger on when.., I just know now, that no one has the ability to laugh at themselves, see the reality in the ridiculous, the humor in the stereotype.


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Be Thankful, I don’t own a Taser.

Seriously. I’m really getting sick and tired of human idiocy. There are just too many stupid people in this world.

🛑 STOP screaming about injustice and burning down your community and START LISTENING to what your community is saying is important.

🛑 STOP being the “Mask Police” and make sure YOU are taking care of YOUR HEALTH an your family.

Any idea how many people I see on the daily not even properly wearing their mask?

NEWSFLASH: if it’s not COVERING NOSE TO CHIN: Protection=Zero. If you’re not wearing a New Mask into EACH PLACE YOU GO: protection=Zero. If you are not STERILIZING your mask after each use: protection=Zero. If you put you mask on your neck, head, or stuff it in your pocket: protection=Zero. If this was seriously a way to STOP VIRUS, there would be Hazardous Waste Receptacles for all used PPE… it would not be all over the park lot.


Screaming your OPINION in the face of others does not make you right, is not based in reality, nor is it true. AND… People stop listening.

The BLAME GAME will get you NOWHERE.


As a person who has experienced being a victim of life experiences outside my control, I have EXPERIENCE fighting for a better life, a better understanding of myself and those who victimized me when I could not protect myself.

Don’t let your past, your culture, your family, your friends, your state, or your country define you.

Be YOU. It means: Not being a Victim of what happened to you. It means FORGIVENESS. It means HARD WORK.

Don’t let one group identity define you. Stop trying to be a check box on a list.

We, each of us, are MORE than the sum of our parts.

I am “white.” ☑️ I am female. ☑️ I am “straight.” ☑️ I am also: a victim of verbal, physical, and sexual abuse. ☑️ I am a victim of poverty. ☑️ I have lost jobs.☑️ I’ve been fired.☑️ I’ve been stalked.☑️ I’m a recovering alcoholic and addict.☑️
I’ve been without electricity and phone, and car.☑️ I’ve lived in fear for my life.☑️ I’ve lived in fear of loosing my home.☑️

NONE of the above defines WHO I AM.

I choose to define myself as: A survivor. An artist. A writer. A listener. A champion of women seeking to improve and achieve their dreams, big and small.


Any GOVERNMENT BODY telling you they are trying to protect you, make your life better, or promising you ANYTHING… is a LIE.

The ONLY way up and out of where you are is: Personal Responsibility and Hard Work. If you’re not willing to accept and do these 2 things, it doesn’t matter who tries to help you and what they promise… You are PLAYING the Victim Card and you’re stuck. No one’s coming to “save” you.



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Happy July 4th!

Just another in a string of Holidays spent in isolation.

My apologies for the long absence. My job in Home Healthcare has been CRAZY the past month and 2020 in general has been a struggle in many ways: mentally, emotionally, and physically.

I like to share positive changes and new growth, but so far my life is all about keeping my head above water and my depression and anxiety at bay. I have been somewhat successful: as in only a few Anxiety meltdowns, and usually keeping a smile on my face.

How are YOU doing half-way through 2020?

Are you still in isolation mode?

Connecticut, USA is starting to open up, and friends are still anxious about socializing. The COVID guidelines have business in a state of constant fear of being shut-down by any complaint.

What are you doing to keep your spirits up?

If you’re in the USA, how are you getting through these Holidays that are not feeling like holidays?

I’m trying to celebrate!

#inquiringminds #2020isweird #openmindopenheart #openandbreave

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A Little Sunshine On A Grey Day…

Original May 2020

Every flower is a soul blossoming in nature

~ Gerard De Nerval

I was struggling today. It was grey outside, and feeling grey on the inside.

What to do? Channel it into my #100daychallenge2020 to Art Journal every day.

I found some lilacs on a struggling tree in our yard, which was the inspiration to get me started.

Adopt the pace of nature. Her secret is patience.

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I REALLY need Nature’s patience right now. Like, 10 weeks+ of patience is running out. BIG TIME.

#loosingit #hangingon #openandbrave

Personal Growth

Let’s DANCE!!!

A great way to relieve lockdown stress!

If you’re like me, and love to dance… DANCE!!! Pick your favorite music and work out that frustration laughing and dancing and singing.

I will admit, I have NO rhythm and I am now tone-deaf (ear damage). BUT! I still live to sing and dance!

My family may laugh… and I don’t care! Dance ANYWAY!

Hard times require FURIOUS DANCING!

💃 💃💃💃

#dance #laugh #findyourjoy #relievestress #openandbrave

Personal Growth

I Rise from the Ashes

Art Journal Project #100daychallege2020

My Affirmations lead to

My Gratitude, which leads to

Me: Rising from the Ashes of FEAR.

#artjournal #openandbrave