Food For Thought

Victims, Crybabies, Lazy Thinkers, and Bullies

I feel like this is a commentary on ALL OF SOCIETY these days.

It used to just be a commentary on CHILDISH BEHAVIOR.

By Bill Watterson

WOW! How things have changed! Not for the better. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m still trying to pin point the moment society flipped…

People like Soldiers, Police, Doctors, Innovators, and Doers were our HEROES!!

When did it become a GOOD THING to be:

  • A Victim
  • A Whiner
  • A Lazy Thinker

Now, people idolize Victims, Crybabies, and Bullies.

LIFE IS NOT FAIR. Never has been, never will be.

We are charged with the task of overcoming obstacles!

Pull up your Grown Up Pants and GET OVER IT!

Do the WORK.

Makes me sad to think the culture my daughter is growing up in doesn’t fit a single thing we’ve taught her to value.

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Important Role of Teens in Family AND Society

I came across this Blog post on Pinterest. I believe in the premise of both the highlighted article and the accompanying Blog about the article.


http://gloryitches.blogspot.com/2012/11/teen-expectations.html?m=1


As a parent and of a teen, I know that it’s a constant balance between towing the “parental line” by enforcing the rules; and learning to let go of some rules in favor of allowing more freedom to make their own choices and mistakes (in a safe environment).

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You don’t like me? That’s OKAY!

One of my most difficult life lessons has been accepting that it’s ok that not all people like me. I don’t like everyone either!

More important than that lesson is that it is ok to disagree AND still like and respect another person or not 😉.

More often than not, something that bothers me in someone else, is a BIGGER version of a failing I see in myself.

Let’s all try to spend some time thinking about this:

Difference of opinion and experience is what makes us each unique. We can learn from each other, disagree with each other, even not like each other… and STILL Be respectful.

Being polite does not have to be connect or equivalent to liking or agreeing with another person.

Compassion is key.

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Balance, Boundaries, and Peace of Mind

A BIG part of my Power Word for 2021: Balance, is learning to walk away from energy draining experiences.

Gotta be HONEST… this is HARD WORK for me! I’m an emotional person. I feel everything deeply. Discussions about Issues and values I hold dear to my heart are hard to walk away from.

I’m increasingly finding that people (especially on social media) want to drag me into arguments rather than honest discussion of differing opinions, ideologies, and values. These so-called “accepting people” would rather finger-point and yell and scream. This is a useless undertaking. These people aren’t interested in a discussion about the complexity of an issue. They simply want to “Take a Stand” and tell me how I am wrong or even a bad person if I disagree with their cause, ideology, or opinion.

This is a complete waste of time and energy. Yet the drama is VERY addicting.

I must work hard to resist the pull of these futile endeavors.

My mantra: “I am living my life in balance and with healthy boundaries.”

And… BREATHE!

Nothing in today’s world is going to be better if i sacrifice my peace of mind.

Life is hard enough without inviting someone else’s “Crazy” into my consciousness.

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Ushering in 2021

Ushering in a New Year, a New President, a New attitude.

I don’t agree with the new President or administration policies.

That said, I ALWAYS respect THE OFFICE and the PROCESS. 🤔

Let’s ALL try to remember/learn a few important LIFE FACTS:

  1. The Politicians that run your STATE and your COMMUNITY have more power over how you live and your quality of life than the President.
  2. If you are unhappy with what is going on around you, BE THE CHANGE you want to see.
  3. You can ALWAYS voice complaints to your LOCAL and STATE Politicians for CHANGE.
  4. Be part of the SOLUTION, stop worrying about WHO is responsible for the problem.
  5. We don’t have to AGREE on ANYTHING to BE KIND and HELP OTHERS.
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Think About Your Choices

Take some time to really THINK about the choices you are making.

Think them through to their ultimate conclusion.

Think about the chain reaction that is set in motion each time you chose. There are good and bad choices in a moment, but EVERY CHOICE has a chain reaction.

Stop looking for the “quick fix” and start considering true changes: changes that set you on the path you want to travel.

The choices you make, big or small, are important, not just in YOUR LIFE, in all the lives surrounding yours.

When you pause and take time to think about your choices, you realize you are far more powerful than you might have assumed in any given moment.

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Be Proud, Be Strong

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I know it’s been AGES since I’ve Blogged. Apologies to the few faithful followers.

I think we can all agree 2020 has been a challenge.

A shout out to those who are taking the 2020 challenge as an opportunity to embrace their inner strength and forge ahead! For myself, I vacillate between”forge ahead!” and “hide my head in the sand!” (Or under a blanket…

However you are making it through: feeling successful, stuck, or just hanging on… props for NOT GIVING UP.

Blessings

#openandbrave

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Choosing Your Words

Is there anything to say that does not offend someone?

In today’s world of “politically correct” and “micro aggressions” is ANY SPEECH safe from ridicule?

I feel like all the joy in conversation and debate has been taken away. I am rarely at ease anymore with anyone. Always worried something I say will be taken as argumentative, offensive, or even hurtful.

I miss the days of throwing out a thought, opinion, or observation, and then having an in-depth conversation over its merits or lack there of. Is it meaningful? Does it have validity? Is there evidence for or against? What experience do you provide to support or object? Have we learned something new?

I feel stagnant in this culture of divisiveness. You can only share ideas, opinions or thoughts that agree or you are labeled intolerant!

When did the very definition of intolerance loose its meaning?

I’m trying to think back to WHEN, exactly, we crossed this line where freedom of speech is only acceptable if you agree. I really can’t put my finger on when.., I just know now, that no one has the ability to laugh at themselves, see the reality in the ridiculous, the humor in the stereotype.

#missingthegoodolddays

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Be Thankful, I don’t own a Taser.

Seriously. I’m really getting sick and tired of human idiocy. There are just too many stupid people in this world.

🛑 STOP screaming about injustice and burning down your community and START LISTENING to what your community is saying is important.

🛑 STOP being the “Mask Police” and make sure YOU are taking care of YOUR HEALTH an your family.

Any idea how many people I see on the daily not even properly wearing their mask?

NEWSFLASH: if it’s not COVERING NOSE TO CHIN: Protection=Zero. If you’re not wearing a New Mask into EACH PLACE YOU GO: protection=Zero. If you are not STERILIZING your mask after each use: protection=Zero. If you put you mask on your neck, head, or stuff it in your pocket: protection=Zero. If this was seriously a way to STOP VIRUS, there would be Hazardous Waste Receptacles for all used PPE… it would not be all over the park lot.

PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY PEOPLE!!!!!

Screaming your OPINION in the face of others does not make you right, is not based in reality, nor is it true. AND… People stop listening.

The BLAME GAME will get you NOWHERE.

LIFE IS NOT, NEVER HAS BEEN FAIR.

As a person who has experienced being a victim of life experiences outside my control, I have EXPERIENCE fighting for a better life, a better understanding of myself and those who victimized me when I could not protect myself.

Don’t let your past, your culture, your family, your friends, your state, or your country define you.

Be YOU. It means: Not being a Victim of what happened to you. It means FORGIVENESS. It means HARD WORK.

Don’t let one group identity define you. Stop trying to be a check box on a list.

We, each of us, are MORE than the sum of our parts.

I am “white.” ☑️ I am female. ☑️ I am “straight.” ☑️ I am also: a victim of verbal, physical, and sexual abuse. ☑️ I am a victim of poverty. ☑️ I have lost jobs.☑️ I’ve been fired.☑️ I’ve been stalked.☑️ I’m a recovering alcoholic and addict.☑️
I’ve been without electricity and phone, and car.☑️ I’ve lived in fear for my life.☑️ I’ve lived in fear of loosing my home.☑️

NONE of the above defines WHO I AM.

I choose to define myself as: A survivor. An artist. A writer. A listener. A champion of women seeking to improve and achieve their dreams, big and small.

STOP 🛑 THINK 🤔 QUESTION

Any GOVERNMENT BODY telling you they are trying to protect you, make your life better, or promising you ANYTHING… is a LIE.

The ONLY way up and out of where you are is: Personal Responsibility and Hard Work. If you’re not willing to accept and do these 2 things, it doesn’t matter who tries to help you and what they promise… You are PLAYING the Victim Card and you’re stuck. No one’s coming to “save” you.

#openmindopenheart

#openandbrave

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Happy July 4th!

Just another in a string of Holidays spent in isolation.

My apologies for the long absence. My job in Home Healthcare has been CRAZY the past month and 2020 in general has been a struggle in many ways: mentally, emotionally, and physically.

I like to share positive changes and new growth, but so far my life is all about keeping my head above water and my depression and anxiety at bay. I have been somewhat successful: as in only a few Anxiety meltdowns, and usually keeping a smile on my face.

How are YOU doing half-way through 2020?

Are you still in isolation mode?

Connecticut, USA is starting to open up, and friends are still anxious about socializing. The COVID guidelines have business in a state of constant fear of being shut-down by any complaint.

What are you doing to keep your spirits up?

If you’re in the USA, how are you getting through these Holidays that are not feeling like holidays?

I’m trying to celebrate!

#inquiringminds #2020isweird #openmindopenheart #openandbreave