Food For Thought · Personal Growth

I Am A Recovering People Pleaser

Barry M Sherbal

I’m doing it! One step at a time. Sometimes I falter. Sometimes I backslide. Sometimes I’m completely successful and walk away… knowing I will be ok.

This lesson of “I am Enough” is a hard one to learn when I’ve spent a lifetime pleasing others to gain acceptance and love.

Today, I do have unconditional love in my life from the people most important to me.

STILL, I haven’t completely put to rest those voices of my childhood that told me through repeated actions, inactions, verbal and nonverbal cues that I had to earn love, earn attention, earn worthiness.

If anyone feels this way now or has struggled with it in the past, my heart goes out to YOU.

YOU are Enough!

YOU are worthy of the life you want.

You are worthy of the love you want.

You are worthy of the career you want.

Whatever you can dream, you are enough for it!

We are always a “Work in Progress” and at the same time ENOUGH.

We are Enough to meet that challenge that scares us.

We are Enough to take that opportunity we secretly tell ourselves we don’t deserve.

We are Enough to be loved flaws and all.

We are Enough to walk away from relationships and situations that no longer serve us well.

As I type this, I say these things to myself: A reminder that I AM ENOUGH!

YOU ARE TOO ❤️

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Quotes That “Spoke” to Me

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Secret to Happiness: Stay in Your Lane

Such simple instructions. I go even more pared down:

Stay in your own lane.

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Why does human nature find it so hard to follow?

It seems on an individual level, less difficult; but add up to a group, society, or community…now it’s different. The almighty “WE” wants in your business and WE want to tell you what to do, what to think, how to do it and how to think.

Take a step back. It’s great to “Think Globally” but we must ACT individually.

ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS

Do you really understand what that statement means? It means:

  1. People won’t change because you tell them to or YELL at them to.
  2. People are change by how they see you behave.
  3. Act responsibly in your own life.
  4. Others will follow.

The caveat to this: Another’s responsibility is not the same as yours. It won’t look the same, think the same, act the same as yours.

Be ok with that. Stay in your own lane. Be the person who understands and takes to heart “Personal Responsibility” and you WILL make a difference. The kind of difference that changes the WORLD.

Blessings ❤️

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Fall Down… Get. Back. Up!

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Fall down, Get back up!!… even if you need to rest first.

That’s ok.❤️

Life is hard. What makes it a blessing is what you do with your experience!

Use your challenge as opportunities to learn and share your experience!

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I Am The Cage AND The Key

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How many times do we feel stuck?

I know I feel that way often… especially in this never-ending alternate reality we seem to be living in since February 2020.

Are there things we cannot change and control? YES!

Do they outnumber or outweigh the things we CAN control? 🤔 I say, NO!!

It’s easy to forget how truly powerful the individual is while being bombarded with so much “noise” from the media, social or otherwise.

Where does Personal Power exist?

  • Our CHOICES: How do I choose to perceive, feel, react to what is happening to me and around me? What Action will it take (or not take)?
  • Our ATTITUDE: Do I see this event, incident, interaction as positive or negative? An opportunity or a stumbling block? A Chance to grow and learn or a Victimization?
  • Our ability to seek/ask for HELP: where do you go for assistance and support? Are those supportive, positive people/places? Are those angry, wallowing people places?

The above 3 Personal Power “Keys” are only effective if they are Empowering you to open the Cage. Otherwise, they ARE your Cage.

Your thoughts?

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My Daily Prayer

Thank You, Pinterest!

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May Is Mental Health Awareness Month

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What Is Anger?

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Faults or Achievements: What Legacy Is More Important?

Found on Pinterest while browsing for inspiration.

The George Washington Carver List really touched me. Also included are quotes by other Great Minds, Leaders, and Speakers: George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Maya Angelou, and Thomas Sowell.

I think we often forget the wisdom of our past by belittling history’s accomplishments because we don’t agree with the social or societal “norms” of the time.

It’s important to look at all our Forefathers: Political, and Social leaders through the lens of what life was at like in their time.

Just because society wasn’t perfect, or an individual historical figure wasn’t perfect, does NOT DISMISS their overwhelming accomplishments.

Someday, people are going to look back on THIS time and judge.

How do you want to be judged?

By all the things you did and tried to do?

By your very human failings and mistakes?

We ALL have them.


God said, “Let he without sin cast the first stone.”


I am imperfect. I’ve made mistakes, hurt people, made bad choices.

I HOPE when I am gone, those are not the focus of my legacy.

I hope when I’m gone, I am remembered for the good I tried to add to the world. The love and time I gave to family and friends and strangers; for accepting people as they are, not how I wish they were.


What do you you want your legacy to include?

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