Food For Thought · Personal Growth

I Am A Recovering People Pleaser

Barry M Sherbal

I’m doing it! One step at a time. Sometimes I falter. Sometimes I backslide. Sometimes I’m completely successful and walk away… knowing I will be ok.

This lesson of “I am Enough” is a hard one to learn when I’ve spent a lifetime pleasing others to gain acceptance and love.

Today, I do have unconditional love in my life from the people most important to me.

STILL, I haven’t completely put to rest those voices of my childhood that told me through repeated actions, inactions, verbal and nonverbal cues that I had to earn love, earn attention, earn worthiness.

If anyone feels this way now or has struggled with it in the past, my heart goes out to YOU.

YOU are Enough!

YOU are worthy of the life you want.

You are worthy of the love you want.

You are worthy of the career you want.

Whatever you can dream, you are enough for it!

We are always a “Work in Progress” and at the same time ENOUGH.

We are Enough to meet that challenge that scares us.

We are Enough to take that opportunity we secretly tell ourselves we don’t deserve.

We are Enough to be loved flaws and all.

We are Enough to walk away from relationships and situations that no longer serve us well.

As I type this, I say these things to myself: A reminder that I AM ENOUGH!

YOU ARE TOO ❤️

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Fall Down… Get. Back. Up!

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Fall down, Get back up!!… even if you need to rest first.

That’s ok.❤️

Life is hard. What makes it a blessing is what you do with your experience!

Use your challenge as opportunities to learn and share your experience!

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My Daily Prayer

Thank You, Pinterest!

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Victims, Crybabies, Lazy Thinkers, and Bullies

I feel like this is a commentary on ALL OF SOCIETY these days.

It used to just be a commentary on CHILDISH BEHAVIOR.

By Bill Watterson

WOW! How things have changed! Not for the better. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m still trying to pin point the moment society flipped…

People like Soldiers, Police, Doctors, Innovators, and Doers were our HEROES!!

When did it become a GOOD THING to be:

  • A Victim
  • A Whiner
  • A Lazy Thinker

Now, people idolize Victims, Crybabies, and Bullies.

LIFE IS NOT FAIR. Never has been, never will be.

We are charged with the task of overcoming obstacles!

Pull up your Grown Up Pants and GET OVER IT!

Do the WORK.

Makes me sad to think the culture my daughter is growing up in doesn’t fit a single thing we’ve taught her to value.

Random Thoughts

Your Trials~A Survival Story

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Responsibility IS Freedom

This is a harsh reality for some, but for me I find comfort in being Responsible.

As a person who grew up under severely dysfunctional and abusive circumstances, having the ability to be responsible for my life is a gift. It means I am no longer a victim of my life. I am the commander, with God as my compass, and I have the power to choose.

Quote by Hal Elrod, found on Pinterest

I can choose to change a situation by speaking up, or by removing myself.

I can choose to react or respond, or to walk away with no explanation.

I can choose where I focus my energy and what I deem important in my life.

Yes, choices are hard. Life is difficult. Bad things happen.

Still, I can choose to walk my path with God as my guide.

I can choose to ask others for help and support.

I can choose to share my life, and who I let stay in my life.

There is so much POWER to be had in being RESPONSIBLE.

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Breakdown = Breakthrough

Over my lifetime thus far, this holds true.

For, me, change always comes when I’ve run out of options, I’m in pieces, at the bottom of a pit looking up.

I understand, for some it seems not to be true; but honesty, I don’t believe it. Your bottom may be deeper than someone else’s or the reverse may be true, but if we are HONEST with each other… change comes to us because there IS NO OTHER OPTION.

If we want to grow. If we want to achieve. If we want to heal.

Where ever you are in your journey: on the slide down, the bottom, on that steep climb up… the choice is always in your hands… WHEN to change.

Strength & Love on your journey.

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Think About Your Choices

Take some time to really THINK about the choices you are making.

Think them through to their ultimate conclusion.

Think about the chain reaction that is set in motion each time you chose. There are good and bad choices in a moment, but EVERY CHOICE has a chain reaction.

Stop looking for the “quick fix” and start considering true changes: changes that set you on the path you want to travel.

The choices you make, big or small, are important, not just in YOUR LIFE, in all the lives surrounding yours.

When you pause and take time to think about your choices, you realize you are far more powerful than you might have assumed in any given moment.

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The Power of an Artistic Mind

Steal Like An Artist

“Steal Like an Artist” by At Home in Love, is a great read… All about how what we know, build on, and create come from information inspired by the past.

The article gives a great list, accompanied by amazing quotes, that show how we can grow in our art and experience by acknowledging where our inspiration comes from.

from the article: Steal Like An Artist

How many of us truly realize what the greats before us have taught us? Where these seemingly “random” thoughts or ideas (inspiration) originated from what we: have heard, seen, read, experienced in our past?

My favorite: from the BIBLE… “There is nothing new under the sun” Ecclesiastes 1:9

If you take the time to read… I would love your thoughts!

Thank you, http://www.athomeinlove.com, for the inspiration and ideas.

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Why Do You Blog?

makeitultrapsychology.wordpress.com/2020/05/16/why-do-you-blog/

By Dr. Perry

This popped up in my WORDPRESS feed at the right time: I’m coming up on my 1-year anniversary for my Blog and considering if it’s serving a purpose, for others, for me.

WHY DO I BLOG? 🤔
I started my blog as a companion to the Facebook Page I was trying to grow into a community of support for people searching for purpose, interested in growing, and wanting to set and accomplish goals.
Admittedly, the first month I thought I’d lost my mind. Thinking I could set up and contribute regularly to a webpage was overwhelming. Though I’d read Blog posts before and enjoyed them, the thought of having a Blog of my own was (and still is) terrifying. I’m great one-to-one, but putting my self “out there” into the world still scares me.
Friends (most of whom don’t even follow my page!) kept encouraging me that I had something worth sharing.

WHAT ARE THE REWARDS?
The biggest reward for me is starring down my fear and putting myself out “there”, wherever that is.

I have a few followers and have received very little feedback, so that side has not yet felt like a reward. However, each time I share some aspect of myself or something that interests me… my fear lessens and I’m more empowered.
The reward is personal: recognizing my voice and accepting that my voice matters, if only to me.

Thanks, Dr. Perry, for your Blog post. This actually made me feel MORE committed to my Blog. I was considering giving it up, but now I see it is fulfilling a purpose: It’s ok if the purpose is me!