Personal Growth

The Real Me and the โ€œMeโ€ You See

Iโ€™ve been gone a while. From my Blog, from the โ€œMeโ€ I want to be, from having anything I felt I could share. For this, I am sorry.

I know that the writings of others often help me when I feel low, and yet that is when I am least likely to share. I donโ€™t like to show the ugly underbelly of my depression and anxiety and where it takes me. The flip side of that is that I know these are the things that people need to hear and seeโ€ฆ my very HUMANNESS.

I only want to share when Iโ€™ve figured something out, or had a new revelation.These are important too. Still, others also need to see the struggle. So again, Iโ€™m sorry for not being here to share mine.

I promise to do better at showing up. In the meantime, hereโ€™s a bit of wisdom (from elsewhere) that struck me recently:

I am posting my picture with this list because:

  1. This picture is not me, and yetโ€ฆ it is me.
  2. The REAL ME needs that second picture. That list of โ€œReminders.โ€

I am this pictureโ€ฆ sometimes. I am often NOT this picture. I am the same mess you feel like. I struggle to do those โ€œhealthy things.โ€

Some days I canโ€™t get out of my pajamas. Some days I canโ€™t get organized. I donโ€™t have energy or make time for self-care: exercise, Art, journaling, writing that โ€œTo Do Listโ€ (or doing it!).

Donโ€™t be fooled by this first picture. She looks like sheโ€™s doing everything rightโ€ฆ all the things you think you โ€œshouldโ€ be doing.

The ME behind the picture needs people like YOU. You remind me itโ€™s ok to be a โ€œWork-in-Progressโ€ the same way you need ME to remind you that this list of Affirmations are important.

Food For Thought

Victims, Crybabies, Lazy Thinkers, and Bullies

I feel like this is a commentary on ALL OF SOCIETY these days.

It used to just be a commentary on CHILDISH BEHAVIOR.

By Bill Watterson

WOW! How things have changed! Not for the better. ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

Iโ€™m still trying to pin point the moment society flippedโ€ฆ

People like Soldiers, Police, Doctors, Innovators, and Doers were our HEROES!!

When did it become a GOOD THING to be:

  • A Victim
  • A Whiner
  • A Lazy Thinker

Now, people idolize Victims, Crybabies, and Bullies.

LIFE IS NOT FAIR. Never has been, never will be.

We are charged with the task of overcoming obstacles!

Pull up your Grown Up Pants and GET OVER IT!

Do the WORK.

Makes me sad to think the culture my daughter is growing up in doesnโ€™t fit a single thing weโ€™ve taught her to value.

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The Ugly Truth

Working up the nerve and the faith to write about my life raw and unvarnished. Just facing the journaling process is intimidating.

Anyone out there with experience sharing their hard-won experience honestly and without color?

Please share your thoughts.

Iโ€™ll be posting as I make progress on my journey.

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Faults or Achievements: What Legacy Is More Important?

Found on Pinterest while browsing for inspiration.

The George Washington Carver List really touched me. Also included are quotes by other Great Minds, Leaders, and Speakers: George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Maya Angelou, and Thomas Sowell.

I think we often forget the wisdom of our past by belittling historyโ€™s accomplishments because we donโ€™t agree with the social or societal โ€œnormsโ€ of the time.

Itโ€™s important to look at all our Forefathers: Political, and Social leaders through the lens of what life was at like in their time.

Just because society wasnโ€™t perfect, or an individual historical figure wasnโ€™t perfect, does NOT DISMISS their overwhelming accomplishments.

Someday, people are going to look back on THIS time and judge.

How do you want to be judged?

By all the things you did and tried to do?

By your very human failings and mistakes?

We ALL have them.


God said, โ€œLet he without sin cast the first stone.โ€


I am imperfect. Iโ€™ve made mistakes, hurt people, made bad choices.

I HOPE when I am gone, those are not the focus of my legacy.

I hope when Iโ€™m gone, I am remembered for the good I tried to add to the world. The love and time I gave to family and friends and strangers; for accepting people as they are, not how I wish they were.


What do you you want your legacy to include?

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Important Role of Teens in Family AND Society

I came across this Blog post on Pinterest. I believe in the premise of both the highlighted article and the accompanying Blog about the article.


http://gloryitches.blogspot.com/2012/11/teen-expectations.html?m=1


As a parent and of a teen, I know that itโ€™s a constant balance between towing the โ€œparental lineโ€ by enforcing the rules; and learning to let go of some rules in favor of allowing more freedom to make their own choices and mistakes (in a safe environment).

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You donโ€™t like me? Thatโ€™s OKAY!

One of my most difficult life lessons has been accepting that itโ€™s ok that not all people like me. I donโ€™t like everyone either!

More important than that lesson is that it is ok to disagree AND still like and respect another person or not ๐Ÿ˜‰.

More often than not, something that bothers me in someone else, is a BIGGER version of a failing I see in myself.

Letโ€™s all try to spend some time thinking about this:

Difference of opinion and experience is what makes us each unique. We can learn from each other, disagree with each other, even not like each otherโ€ฆ and STILL Be respectful.

Being polite does not have to be connect or equivalent to liking or agreeing with another person.

Compassion is key.

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Integrity: Where Do YOU Stand?

Integrity. Such an important word.

found on Pinterest

I have been feeling as though our society has lost all perspective on Integrity: itโ€™s meaning and importance to our daily living.

As our culture has lost faith in the foundations on which America has always stood, we have lost belief in our leadersโ€™ integrity; and therefore lost our belief in its very existence.

Integrity is a personal value that is extremely important in how we live. Integrity influences our choices, decisions, and actions.

Take some time today to contemplate your views on Integrity: is it a value to you? Do you believe it is important? Is it important to teach your children? To model for others? To be a leader?

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LIFE IS MESSY: Do It Anyway

Soโ€ฆ this past week my time-management skills and work-life balance were a little (a lot) off kilter.

I โ€œglancedโ€ at my Make Art Everyday book, everydayโ€ฆ but I was so brain tired and emotionally drained that I did NOTHING.

Saturday came and work had slowed some, Iโ€™d processed some emotional upheaval, and 15 had a BFF over. Suddenly, I found myself at loose ends with a wandering mind and restless hands. Voila!! Time for some ART PROMPTS.

So I didnโ€™t make art everyday, but I still made ART!

Make Art Everyday:Week 6

Lesson for me (always): progress not perfection.

Did I follow My Plan perfectly? No.

Did I stumble and procrastinate? Yes.

Did I get it done? Yes.

Life is messy. Some days my โ€œBestโ€ is not so great. Some days my โ€œBestโ€ is Awesome! โ€ฆ and some days I just show up and make it to bedtime without creating a bigger mess.

Those really โ€œmessyโ€ days are full of pain and โ€œshouldsโ€ and โ€œIโ€™ll never be good enoughโ€โ€ฆ. and THOSE are the days I have to work really hard to love myself, so I can make it to my productive, awesome days.

This week had more messy days than usual, but I got in my Awesome on Saturday and made it up to myself with Art โค๏ธ.

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Balance, Boundaries, and Peace of Mind

A BIG part of my Power Word for 2021: Balance, is learning to walk away from energy draining experiences.

Gotta be HONESTโ€ฆ this is HARD WORK for me! Iโ€™m an emotional person. I feel everything deeply. Discussions about Issues and values I hold dear to my heart are hard to walk away from.

Iโ€™m increasingly finding that people (especially on social media) want to drag me into arguments rather than honest discussion of differing opinions, ideologies, and values. These so-called โ€œaccepting peopleโ€ would rather finger-point and yell and scream. This is a useless undertaking. These people arenโ€™t interested in a discussion about the complexity of an issue. They simply want to โ€œTake a Standโ€ and tell me how I am wrong or even a bad person if I disagree with their cause, ideology, or opinion.

This is a complete waste of time and energy. Yet the drama is VERY addicting.

I must work hard to resist the pull of these futile endeavors.

My mantra: โ€œI am living my life in balance and with healthy boundaries.โ€

Andโ€ฆ BREATHE!

Nothing in todayโ€™s world is going to be better if i sacrifice my peace of mind.

Life is hard enough without inviting someone elseโ€™s โ€œCrazyโ€ into my consciousness.

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Practising Loving Kindness

WOW! So on-target with what I’m working on right now.

If you need help with ding love and kindness for yourself and others, this article lays out the perfect way to start!
โ€” Read on empress2inspire.blog/2020/12/26/practising-loving-kindness/