I’m doing it! One step at a time. Sometimes I falter. Sometimes I backslide. Sometimes I’m completely successful and walk away… knowing I will be ok.
This lesson of “I am Enough” is a hard one to learn when I’ve spent a lifetime pleasing others to gain acceptance and love.
Today, I do have unconditional love in my life from the people most important to me.
STILL, I haven’t completely put to rest those voices of my childhood that told me through repeated actions, inactions, verbal and nonverbal cues that I had to earn love, earn attention, earn worthiness.
If anyone feels this way now or has struggled with it in the past, my heart goes out to YOU.
YOU are Enough!
YOU are worthy of the life you want.
You are worthy of the love you want.
You are worthy of the career you want.
Whatever you can dream, you are enough for it!
We are always a “Work in Progress” and at the same time ENOUGH.
We are Enough to meet that challenge that scares us.
We are Enough to take that opportunity we secretly tell ourselves we don’t deserve.
We are Enough to be loved flaws and all.
We are Enough to walk away from relationships and situations that no longer serve us well.
As I type this, I say these things to myself: A reminder that I AM ENOUGH!
I’m in Athens, Georgia for 2 weeks to help family. I love them and I’m happy to have a job that allows me to work from anywhere so I can be here to help when they need it.
Those who are in the Healthcare profession or are caregivers for loved ones know what this means. It’s an act of love, done gratefully and (hopefully) gracefully. It is also emotionally, mentally, and physically draining.
This is a reminder that it’s time to take a BREAK, or as I call it a “Time Out.”
I’ve been here a week and today I needed that “time out.” Luckily, the weather has started to turn for Autumn and the temperature/humidity has let up and cooled. So today, my time is being spent outside.
The Georgia Botanical Gardens has always been a favorite place for me, when I lived here and now when I visit.
As I sit by this beautiful water feature at the entrance to The Visitor Center, I feel my stress, sadness, anxiety and exhaustion melt away…
I hope you take a “Time Out” if you need it. Remember: you’re no good to anyone if you’re not good to yourself ❤️
PLEASE! Tell me I’m not the only person who struggles with this conundrum!
What do you do when you want attention?
What if you don’t want to ASK for attention?
We want attention. We want certain kinds of attention. We want others to know what we want without having to ASK.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, deals with this issue from the marriage/relationship aspect. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Discovering your “love language” can be a HUGE boost to your relationship. More importantly, knowing your partner’s love language could completely transform the way you communicate with each other.
With friendships, I find this “need” for reciprocal attention, time, or interest much harder to figure out. A lot of MY problems in this area can be attributed to my “people-pleasing” tendencies. This bad habit has blurred the lines and been ineffective in developing reciprocal relationships with others.
So…I reach out to YOU, dear readers, for your experience, expertise, and resources.
HOW do you get your needs met with friendships?
How do you determine: when to stay or walk away?
What traits tell you THIS will be a friendship worth investing in?
I’m looking for honest experience and honest answers, especially if you’ve overcome a “People-Pleaser” personality issue.
I think we’re making up for the past few years of unusual warm Winters🤣.
Last week: almost 2 feet, today 5-7 inches… we shall see 🤔. The rest of the week is calling for a few inches almost EVERY DAY 😖.
I DO love the snow. The impact it has on my job as a Home Healthcare Scheduler, not so much. The worry over caregivers not getting to clients, clients need care but don’t have anyone to clear driveways. 🤦🏻♀️