Food For Thought · Personal Growth

I Am A Recovering People Pleaser

Barry M Sherbal

I’m doing it! One step at a time. Sometimes I falter. Sometimes I backslide. Sometimes I’m completely successful and walk away… knowing I will be ok.

This lesson of “I am Enough” is a hard one to learn when I’ve spent a lifetime pleasing others to gain acceptance and love.

Today, I do have unconditional love in my life from the people most important to me.

STILL, I haven’t completely put to rest those voices of my childhood that told me through repeated actions, inactions, verbal and nonverbal cues that I had to earn love, earn attention, earn worthiness.

If anyone feels this way now or has struggled with it in the past, my heart goes out to YOU.

YOU are Enough!

YOU are worthy of the life you want.

You are worthy of the love you want.

You are worthy of the career you want.

Whatever you can dream, you are enough for it!

We are always a “Work in Progress” and at the same time ENOUGH.

We are Enough to meet that challenge that scares us.

We are Enough to take that opportunity we secretly tell ourselves we don’t deserve.

We are Enough to be loved flaws and all.

We are Enough to walk away from relationships and situations that no longer serve us well.

As I type this, I say these things to myself: A reminder that I AM ENOUGH!

YOU ARE TOO ❤️

Food For Thought · Personal Growth

Taking A Much Needed “Time Out”

I’m in Athens, Georgia for 2 weeks to help family. I love them and I’m happy to have a job that allows me to work from anywhere so I can be here to help when they need it.

Those who are in the Healthcare profession or are caregivers for loved ones know what this means. It’s an act of love, done gratefully and (hopefully) gracefully. It is also emotionally, mentally, and physically draining.

This is a reminder that it’s time to take a BREAK, or as I call it a “Time Out.”

I’ve been here a week and today I needed that “time out.” Luckily, the weather has started to turn for Autumn and the temperature/humidity has let up and cooled. So today, my time is being spent outside.

The Georgia Botanical Gardens has always been a favorite place for me, when I lived here and now when I visit.

Botanical Garden Beauty
Water Feature at Visitor Center Entrance

As I sit by this beautiful water feature at the entrance to The Visitor Center, I feel my stress, sadness, anxiety and exhaustion melt away…

I hope you take a “Time Out” if you need it. Remember: you’re no good to anyone if you’re not good to yourself ❤️

Blessings.

Personal Growth

Are You Getting the Affection You Crave?

Of course we all want affection and attention.

By Bill Watterson

PLEASE! Tell me I’m not the only person who struggles with this conundrum!

What do you do when you want attention?

What if you don’t want to ASK for attention?

We want attention. We want certain kinds of attention. We want others to know what we want without having to ASK.

Sound Familiar?

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, deals with this issue from the marriage/relationship aspect. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Discovering your “love language” can be a HUGE boost to your relationship. More importantly, knowing your partner’s love language could completely transform the way you communicate with each other.

With friendships, I find this “need” for reciprocal attention, time, or interest much harder to figure out. A lot of MY problems in this area can be attributed to my “people-pleasing” tendencies. This bad habit has blurred the lines and been ineffective in developing reciprocal relationships with others.

So…I reach out to YOU, dear readers, for your experience, expertise, and resources.

HOW do you get your needs met with friendships?

How do you determine: when to stay or walk away?

What traits tell you THIS will be a friendship worth investing in?

I’m looking for honest experience and honest answers, especially if you’ve overcome a “People-Pleaser” personality issue.

Food For Thought

What Inspires YOU?

Longwalks App

This is such a hopeful, happy quote to start off a new week and Daylight Savings Time (extra coffee??)

Lately, I’ve found myself interested in drawing, painting, and watching BIRDS.


Inspired by artist creating art using birds.

Continue reading “What Inspires YOU?”
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I’m Ready for NORMAL LIFE (Not the current “Normal)

This. This is my “Thank God it’s Friday” face… even though I work Saturdays.

My TGIF Face!

I miss weekends when I got together with friends (plural) for dinner, or coffee, or a movie.

I miss having a social life!

Laughing with friends (or commiserating) lightens our load… and let’s face it, no matter WHO you are the load has been heavy since this time last year.

I’m ready for a return to life of gathering with friends.

Easter is coming and I’m ready to join in the annual tradition of gathering with my friend’s family for food and fun.

Spring is coming… I’m ready for picnics, beach parties, and kids laughter.

I’m ready to not be afraid because I have allergies and my runny nose, sneezing and coughing are going to scare EVERYONE into thinking I have The Plague.

I’m ready to give up the mask! To not feel like I’m constantly choking on my own air to make others feel safe.

I’m ready for CHANGE! Back to the normal I’m used to, not this insanity we are currently living in.

Peace 🥰

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Current Happenings

Coming Down Fast & Hard

Winter 2021: Snow, Snow, and more Snow!

I think we’re making up for the past few years of unusual warm Winters🤣.

Last week: almost 2 feet, today 5-7 inches… we shall see 🤔. The rest of the week is calling for a few inches almost EVERY DAY 😖.

I DO love the snow. The impact it has on my job as a Home Healthcare Scheduler, not so much. The worry over caregivers not getting to clients, clients need care but don’t have anyone to clear driveways. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Definitely having a white winter!

Personal Growth

Work in Progress

Today’s Wins:

  1. Got up early!
  2. Did stretches!
  3. Watched the sunrise
  4. Gratitude Journaling
  5. Had 16 oz water, cup of coffee, & ate breakfast
  6. Reached out to a friend with an honest and vulnerable heart
  7. Had a good cry
  8. Showered and dressed
    …. ALL BEFORE 8am! & start of work!

Also:

  • took time to have a phone conversation, I miss hearing my friends voices!
  • Set a timer for lunch break! … AND took a lunch break!

Yeah! Balance!

Personal Growth

2021: The Year of BALANCE

New Year, New Intentions…

BALANCE is a skill I will be working on and (possibly) perfecting?

Well, progress anyway. 😁

I am working on a few goals right now, small ones:

  1. Reading daily (learning new information)
  2. Regular bedtime: 9:30pm
  3. Regular wake up time: 6am (working toward 5am)
  4. Daily exercise: yoga and/or 30 min Walk
  5. Work structure: start, breaks, stop times

Also, being intentional with my time, my energy, and my friendships.

Do you have an intention for 2021?

If so, what are the steps you are taking to achieve it?