I’m in Athens, Georgia for 2 weeks to help family. I love them and I’m happy to have a job that allows me to work from anywhere so I can be here to help when they need it.
Those who are in the Healthcare profession or are caregivers for loved ones know what this means. It’s an act of love, done gratefully and (hopefully) gracefully. It is also emotionally, mentally, and physically draining.
This is a reminder that it’s time to take a BREAK, or as I call it a “Time Out.”
I’ve been here a week and today I needed that “time out.” Luckily, the weather has started to turn for Autumn and the temperature/humidity has let up and cooled. So today, my time is being spent outside.
The Georgia Botanical Gardens has always been a favorite place for me, when I lived here and now when I visit.
As I sit by this beautiful water feature at the entrance to The Visitor Center, I feel my stress, sadness, anxiety and exhaustion melt away…
I hope you take a “Time Out” if you need it. Remember: you’re no good to anyone if you’re not good to yourself ❤️
Of course we all want affection and attention.
PLEASE! Tell me I’m not the only person who struggles with this conundrum!
What do you do when you want attention?
What if you don’t want to ASK for attention?
We want attention. We want certain kinds of attention. We want others to know what we want without having to ASK.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, deals with this issue from the marriage/relationship aspect. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Discovering your “love language” can be a HUGE boost to your relationship. More importantly, knowing your partner’s love language could completely transform the way you communicate with each other.
With friendships, I find this “need” for reciprocal attention, time, or interest much harder to figure out. A lot of MY problems in this area can be attributed to my “people-pleasing” tendencies. This bad habit has blurred the lines and been ineffective in developing reciprocal relationships with others.
So…I reach out to YOU, dear readers, for your experience, expertise, and resources.
HOW do you get your needs met with friendships?
How do you determine: when to stay or walk away?
What traits tell you THIS will be a friendship worth investing in?
I’m looking for honest experience and honest answers, especially if you’ve overcome a “People-Pleaser” personality issue.
Such simple instructions. I go even more pared down:
Stay in your own lane.
Why does human nature find it so hard to follow?
It seems on an individual level, less difficult; but add up to a group, society, or community…now it’s different. The almighty “WE” wants in your business and WE want to tell you what to do, what to think, how to do it and how to think.
Take a step back. It’s great to “Think Globally” but we must ACT individually.
ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS
Do you really understand what that statement means? It means:
- People won’t change because you tell them to or YELL at them to.
- People are change by how they see you behave.
- Act responsibly in your own life.
- Others will follow.
The caveat to this: Another’s responsibility is not the same as yours. It won’t look the same, think the same, act the same as yours.
Be ok with that. Stay in your own lane. Be the person who understands and takes to heart “Personal Responsibility” and you WILL make a difference. The kind of difference that changes the WORLD.
Fall down, Get back up!!… even if you need to rest first.
Life is hard. What makes it a blessing is what you do with your experience!
Use your challenge as opportunities to learn and share your experience!
How many times do we feel stuck?
I know I feel that way often… especially in this never-ending alternate reality we seem to be living in since February 2020.
Are there things we cannot change and control? YES!
Do they outnumber or outweigh the things we CAN control? 🤔 I say, NO!!
It’s easy to forget how truly powerful the individual is while being bombarded with so much “noise” from the media, social or otherwise.
Where does Personal Power exist?
- Our CHOICES: How do I choose to perceive, feel, react to what is happening to me and around me? What Action will it take (or not take)?
- Our ATTITUDE: Do I see this event, incident, interaction as positive or negative? An opportunity or a stumbling block? A Chance to grow and learn or a Victimization?
- Our ability to seek/ask for HELP: where do you go for assistance and support? Are those supportive, positive people/places? Are those angry, wallowing people places?
The above 3 Personal Power “Keys” are only effective if they are Empowering you to open the Cage. Otherwise, they ARE your Cage.
Thank You, Pinterest!
I’ve been gone a while. From my Blog, from the “Me” I want to be, from having anything I felt I could share. For this, I am sorry.
I know that the writings of others often help me when I feel low, and yet that is when I am least likely to share. I don’t like to show the ugly underbelly of my depression and anxiety and where it takes me. The flip side of that is that I know these are the things that people need to hear and see… my very HUMANNESS.
I only want to share when I’ve figured something out, or had a new revelation.These are important too. Still, others also need to see the struggle. So again, I’m sorry for not being here to share mine.
I promise to do better at showing up. In the meantime, here’s a bit of wisdom (from elsewhere) that struck me recently:
I am posting my picture with this list because:
- This picture is not me, and yet… it is me.
- The REAL ME needs that second picture. That list of “Reminders.”
I am this picture… sometimes. I am often NOT this picture. I am the same mess you feel like. I struggle to do those “healthy things.”
Some days I can’t get out of my pajamas. Some days I can’t get organized. I don’t have energy or make time for self-care: exercise, Art, journaling, writing that “To Do List” (or doing it!).
Don’t be fooled by this first picture. She looks like she’s doing everything right… all the things you think you “should” be doing.
The ME behind the picture needs people like YOU. You remind me it’s ok to be a “Work-in-Progress” the same way you need ME to remind you that this list of Affirmations are important.
I feel like this is a commentary on ALL OF SOCIETY these days.
It used to just be a commentary on CHILDISH BEHAVIOR.
WOW! How things have changed! Not for the better. 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
I’m still trying to pin point the moment society flipped…
People like Soldiers, Police, Doctors, Innovators, and Doers were our HEROES!!
When did it become a GOOD THING to be:
- A Victim
- A Whiner
- A Lazy Thinker
Now, people idolize Victims, Crybabies, and Bullies.
LIFE IS NOT FAIR. Never has been, never will be.
We are charged with the task of overcoming obstacles!
Pull up your Grown Up Pants and GET OVER IT!
Do the WORK.
Makes me sad to think the culture my daughter is growing up in doesn’t fit a single thing we’ve taught her to value.